Why does our world make it so difficult to adopt?
and see these precious babes!
What a wonderful organization this
Little Flowers Project is!
I'm partial to the cleft babies, but they are all adorable and heartbreaking!
I'm partial to the cleft babies, but they are all adorable and heartbreaking!
I hear you. I want so badly to bring one of these little ones home! Praying the St. Andrew Christmas novena (again) this year for that intention.
ReplyDeleteOne of our goddaughters is a cleft baby our friends adopted from China. She's now a beautiful 14 year old. I shudder to think what her life would have been had she never been adopted out of that orphanage~
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Deleteoh my. they are all beautiful and perfectly made by God!! thanks for sharing this facebook page and organization with us.
ReplyDeleteIsn't it neat? The love and dignity they give these abandoned, abused, sick, and often times dying children. It seems and looks like a good place.
DeleteCleft babies are my fave :)
ReplyDeleteOK, me too.:)
DeleteI am new to your blog but have seen you around Allison's blog (Totus Tuus). I have been checking in on your journey with Simeon.
ReplyDeleteThe world does make it hard doesn't it? I was just having this same discussion. Not to mention the millions of babies that could be adopted instead of aborted!
I am approaching the end of my child bearing years. I lost two after my now 8 yr old was born. I also have three college age children. We have been praying about adopting but we also know the finances would be a huge hurtle right now. We are open to adopting children with Downs and minor special needs as well as babies with clefts. I pray if it is God's will that He will open a door.
I am also checking out some good info on Reese's Rainbow. Thanks for sharing this. I never heard of this organization (and I am a Secular Carmelite so I like the name!)
Nice to "meet" you Theresa!! It's just the cost, the travel, the waiting periods...especially in other countries where there are orphanages full and the children are aged out. It's like the government just really doesn't care...Best wishes, if it's God's will, it will all fall into place!
DeleteTraveling was the other issue...most of the children up for adoption require traveling and even spending a certain amount of time there.
ReplyDeleteYes...it does not make it easy!
Oh such beautiful babies! Unfortunately, adoption is hard and expensive. We all need to pray that God will open hearts and doors so these beautiful children can become part of loving families. Adoption should be easy...abortion, difficult!
ReplyDeleteJones--so true, how ironic...so sad our world has made bad seem good.
DeleteIt is not expensive to adopt from child welfare. Foster to adoption is not costly. Those of us who work in adoption -- and understand that all adoptions should be open -- and understand the true challenges of international adoption - identity - loss - etc - would seriously urge people to look into open adoption --foster care to adoption. Those are children that truly need forever families. It is not hard to adopt that way but it's not what people want.
ReplyDeleteSo So many of abortions, if carried to term, would end up in foster care. Such a complex thing that people over simplify ... Also, funding for pre/post adoption services have been cut and cut farther and farther. So I suggest supporting policy that is adoption friendly and supportive of the process, because it is not as simple as people seem to believe to "just adopt" sigh
You are right Thatyourwords. My husband and I had an 11 year old with us for 6 mos, and it turned out to be a failed adoption because we asked for help, we wanted her assessed, we were placement number 52, literally, and she needed so much help, the county where she was from came and got her, instead of getting her the help we wanted to get for her. That was before we had any birth children.
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Many people do not even know that right here in the U.S. we have waiting children, yes, they are older and they have problems, but they need families. People say they are pro-life, but need to step up and take care of the babies that were not aborted. I get where you are coming from.
But, there are children all over the world, such needy children, like this site, I linked, where most of those children were abandoned and left, and the governments make it very hard for anyone to get them. it is not easy and it is expensive, and timely.
I am so sorry to hear that, it's pretty common for adoptions to fail just like that--which is so sad.
ReplyDeleteI agree with you there are children all over that need homes. And the best home for them may be somewhere overseas but that child and family will need support as well--sometimes even more. Adoption is such a complex thing!
It may seem like gov't make it hard but I often think it is not hard enough. There are so many scandals -- children taken from parents that did not want to give them or mother's forced to give up babies -- in China and India especially and once you close that adoption and send that child overseas you can write anything you want in that report and that child -- that person -- has lost the rights to their own life and their own story. That is what was (and still is) happening in many many places. The Hague regulations addressed that. I don't always think it is strict enough. You are taking a child completely out of their culture and everything they know. It is more or less like taking a small person and dropping them on another planet. There are wonderful adoptive families who do a remarkable job helping their children find their identity and meeting the challenges and finding the support and resources they need, and there are other families who are not prepared or can't access those kind of resources and those families end up in crisis.
It's too bad it's not clearer on all sides of this issue...and I agree that open adoption is the best solution for some of the scandals you've mentioned but it's almost as if people are needed to rescue these babies from the orphanages, because no matter how they got there, they are there. And there is not a good place. (except in the link I shared, it seems like a place where the children are given dignity and love)
DeleteI don't think many parents are ready for what awaits in an international adoption, or any adoption really, especially of older children, but are we ready as birth parents either? I DO think that these parents are usually led by God, after many prayers answered. They are following God's will, and for whatever reason, their particular child that they are drawn to, is meant for them, who knows the reason God has in mind, the welfare of the child, what that child will become because of those particular parents, what those parents will learn from the whole process and who will be helped because of it....only God sees the big picture and how everything is connected and has a reason.
There needs to be support (more support) all around, for that pregnant mama questioning what to do, support not only for her now, but for her after she decides to keep that baby or give it up for adoption.
SO, back to my post...Why? Can't it all be easy and clear? I wish our world were a simpler place.
Well adoption became a legal process and it's now all a mess! Before that happened most adoptions were kinship adoptions. Regardless, look at the laundries in Ireland-- those baby stolen from their mothers and adopted overseas and the mothers (many of them children themselves) abused and imprisoned for being unwed ... It's horrible what we (not you and I I mean collective we) do to children - and mothers!
DeleteYou are right they do need homes. And something does need to be done! Looking at that facebook page I want to go get ALL of them (so so sweet!). There are good and bad orphanages. I think the correct answer is to support families and support areas that need help. We can't always do that in other countries and we certainly do not do that in our own country! We swoop in and take children and place them here and there like property!
There has always been and probably always will be a great need for adoption. Even in the best of circumstances there will still be parents who can not, for whatever reason, raise their child. I think we need to approach that from the mindset of first respecting and helping birthparents.and the best interest of the child! I think if that were the mind set that these types of cases -- where children need medical attention and were abandoned could be moved faster and helped and placed easier -- but because of all the bigger issues and scandals we can't do that! We have to create more and more laws to protect the horrible human rights violations that happen in adoption.
Such a big issue!
Those babies are so sweet!
Bless the nannies in that center! They are wonderful!
oops sorry if that was confusing (blogger used my blogger ID not my wordpress blog--it's still me haha)
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DeleteJamie Jo, I've been reading, just not commenting much lately. I think of you and your family often and offer up prayers for you all.
ReplyDeleteBy the way, I've nominated you for Liebster blog award - really a getting to know you kind of post but it was fun to do and I would love to see you do it too!
Thanks for proving the link, Jamie Jo! Luke loved looking at all the pictures of the babies and children! We said a little prayer for all of them.
ReplyDeleteI love the Little Flowers PRoject!!
ReplyDeleteHi Jaime! I ask this question all the time - why is it so expensive to adopt? To me, this is heartbreaking. Ive always wanted to be a Mom, but didnt get married until I was almost 41. We tried so hard to have children, but eight months after getting married we learned I have endometriosis stage five. I had two surgeries to try to correct it, were treated by a Napro doctor , lost weight, took vitamins, ect. but still nothing worked. I am barren. I am 46 now and having some symptoms of peri menopause (and terrible headaches) . I have been a teacher at a daycare for 25 years. I ADORE children. I would love to adopt, but how? Husband and I cant afford it. I would love to adopt through the state, but heard some horror stories. Not sure how we can do it. :(
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