"Lord, if you had been here, my brother would not have died." John 11:21
At the funeral I went to on Friday, the priest gave the best homily I've heard at a funeral ever. He talked about this line in the bible, how Mary said this to Jesus.
He talked about how quite often when someone dies suddenly or before their time (young), the people left behind are left saying to themselves "If only I had been there." "If only I had spent more time with him." "If I had just paid more attention to him the last time I saw him." If only. There are a million "If only's" for the people left to mourn this kind of death.
The priest said that does not matter, because Jesus meets us right where we are. He meets the person who has died right where he is. Jesus is there.
Can we change some of those "If only's" with people we see all the time, or don't see often enough? Can we forgive someone who needs to be forgiven? Can we recognize and compliment someone who needs that from us? Can we love and live as if it's our last day here on earth?
We can, with God's help. With prayer, with humility, with love.